They want white St. Louis to quit it with the knee-jerk paternalism and actually hear their message. They want white St. Louis to finally make an effort to grapple with its shameful racial history, a history in which a complex alchemy of private decisions and public policies conspired to leave north St. Louis County divided by race and class. They want to win some agency of their own lives instead of being at the mercy of forces that have so often let them down—or actively impeded them.
At kitchen tables, during drives to school and in parting words as we sent them off to college, we shared a version of the same lessons given to young black men for generations: “If you are stopped by a cop, do what he says, even if he’s harassing you, even if you didn’t do anything wrong. Let him arrest you, memorize his badge number, and call me as soon as you get to the precinct. Keep your hands where he can see them. Do not reach for your wallet. Do not grab your phone. Do not raise your voice. Do not talk back. Do you understand me?”
Though most law enforcement agencies deny they engage in racial profiling, many blacks have long believed that they do. Consequently, many black parents warn their children — particularly boys and young men — about the potential danger in being stopped by the police when they’re driving, bicycling or just standing around on street corners….
….Several young people interviewed said that they are not mistrustful of every police officer. Yet their own experiences have taught them that being black means there’s a good chance they’ll be stopped by the police, even if they haven’t broken the law. They say that it’s how they handle the situation that will determine whether they will be let go with a warning, hauled off to jail or just get away alive.
**Edit: A thoughtful friend pointed out that not everyone feels like engaging in real-world issues over FB, so perhaps my social media perusing is not the best or most accurate example of people’s true feelings on the subject, must less any kind of litmus test for people’s willingness to stand up to racism. I feel this is a logical critique. So I’ll say this; I believe every person has to make their own decision about how “real” they feel social media interactions to be, and act accordingly. Some people feel the internet isn’t a very accurate picture of who people really are; on the other hand, some think the internet shows us the bad side of ourselves more clearly. Some people feel that back-and-forth on internet threads can’t have enough real-world impact to change people’s minds; others disagree. I happen to be someone who feels that a great deal of our subtle influencing can happen online, and so I suppose it’s logical that I’m going to put a lot of investment into what I say and what I stand up for in the public eye of Facebook. But if you are not such a person, and prefer to deal in real life, be not afraid; I still understand and respect your point of view 🙂 I would only ask that if you post something online, and a friend tries to hijack your thread to say something unloving about another group of people, please consider at least deleting the thread even if you don’t want to argue there–after all, you don’t know who else may stumble on your friend’s comments and be offended–or swayed!–by what they say.